by Thyonne Gordon, Ph.D., Executive Director
Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth.
After reviewing my daughter’s report card I questioned a number of absences which she brushed off as bad admin reporting. Still, I thought it odd that so many teachers had inconsistencies so I asked if she cut any classes. She flat out denied it but after some “momma grilling” she finally cracked and admitted that she ditched a class. Busted in a lie! Her worse nightmare became my best teaching moment.
Why do people think they can hide from the truth?
In the recent slaying of young Trayvon Martin, the facts just don’t add up. Hopefully, when the truth comes forth, Trayvon can rest in peace and his parents can close this chapter with love knowing justice was served.
But, why do we have to go through such long suffering to get to the truth? Wouldn’t it be easier to be honest from the start? Think about it, when practicing truth there’s no having to remember lies, no hidden agenda and no alarm that someone will find you out — because what you see is what you get!
While, it may sound easy, truth be told, the truth hurts and we fear hurt or pain! Instinctively, we are designed as humans to avoid hurt–even if that means telling a lie. What we don’t realize is that lying only delays pain and often hurts deeper as it lingers. It also causes a greater fear because the lies tend to grow and harm others.
So what do we do? What’s the lesson?
Conquer your fear! Truth is difficult for everyone because the fear of being hurt, rejected, disappointed or harmed in any way is terrifying. Know that you’re not alone in having to make the tough decision to speak your truth. But, also know that when you make the decision to live in truth, you accomplish more than just your truth. You look fear in the face and you crush it! You tell the world who you are. And, you move past the point where others can hurt you because if you’re not living in fear, then you’re living in love. Real truth is love.
As for my daughter, she now knows that looking fear in the face (telling the truth) equates to love even with consequences but, succumbing to fear (lying) compounds those consequences and results in trouble.
What fear puts you in a position to avoid the truth? Can you vow to truth and live in love?